How to Make the Relationship Real

It’s easy to say we have a "relationship with Jesus." We hear it all the time. But what does it take to make that relationship real, deep, and meaningful? How do we move beyond just words and into something alive and transforming?

1. Ask God to Make It Real

If you feel distant from God, start by asking Him to restore the joy of your salvation (Psalm 51:12). Pray for Him to reignite the fire in your heart.

 

“Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you.” (James 4:8)

Sometimes, we just need to ask. We need to be honest with Him—God, I want more. I want to know You deeply, not just in theory, but in reality. Help me make this relationship real.

2. Let Go of What’s in the Way

Every deep relationship requires removing obstacles that keep it from growing.

Think about a marriage—if one person is too distracted, too busy, or too invested in other things, the relationship suffers. Even "good things" can take priority over the most important thing—knowing and loving Jesus.

  • What’s stealing your attention from Him?

  • What do you need to let go of to go deeper?

Maybe it’s a sin that’s weighing you down. Maybe it’s distractions, entertainment, or even church activities that have replaced personal intimacy with God. Whatever it is, if it’s keeping you from knowing Him personally, it’s not worth holding onto.

3. Stop Treating It Like a Checklist

You don’t fall in love with someone by following a checklist. Yes, routines can help—just like setting aside time with a spouse or a friend helps strengthen a relationship—but they don’t create love. Love grows through time, attention, and deep connection.

The same is true with Jesus. He doesn’t want a cold routine; He wants your heart.

  • Talk to Him throughout the day—not just at scheduled times.

  • Read the Bible with the expectation that He will speak to you.

  • Be still and listen—prayer is a two-way conversation.

  • Invite Him into every part of your life—not just the “spiritual” moments.

4. Live Like He’s With You—Because He Is

If Jesus was physically sitting with you at your table, walking beside you at work, or riding in the car with you, how would you act? How often would you talk to Him? What would change in the way you go about your day?

The reality is, He is with you. We just need to start living like it.

“I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” (Matthew 28:20)

5. Make Room for the Relationship to Grow

Every real relationship requires intentionality. We make time for what matters most. If we want to go deeper with Jesus, we have to make room for Him.

  • Slow down. Don’t rush through time with Him.

  • Make space for quiet. It’s hard to hear Him in constant noise.

  • Expect the relationship to grow. Don’t settle for surface-level faith.

A Relationship, Not a Ritual

This isn’t about being a "better Christian." It’s about falling in love with Jesus in a real, personal way. He’s not looking for your performance—He’s looking for your heart.

So the question is: Are you making room for the relationship? Or are you just going through the motions?

If you’re hungry for something more, Jesus is already inviting you in. All you have to do is say yes.

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